My parents recently came to visit, and like always we had so much fun, and the kids cannot get enough of their totally awesome grandparents. Vayda cannot stop talking about how cool her grandma Linda is, lol. She tells all her friends at school about her summer trip to stay with her grandparents, that their home is the best place on earth, and her grandparents are the best thing since candy, lol. It’s super cute, and make me happy to hear her say those things.
If you have been reading Jenns Blah Blah Blog for a while than you already know Vayda’s mom passed away when she was 3 years old, and I have been raising her since then. Her real moms side of the family never calls, writes, not even a birthday card. Hearing her talk about my parents the way she does makes my heart filled with joy. I am so glad she is able to experience that love from somewhere, and my parents love her. Trust me the feeling is totally mutual, Vayda is the coolest thing since cheese if you ask my parents lol. I admire my family, they have stepped up and done more for my kids than they will ever know, and it was done so natural – nothing was forced. They fell in love with 3 oldest kids just as easy as they did with Mattie.
My parents are still fairly young, and I admit a lot of me wanting them to move closer has to do with my kids, but it also has to do with my dad’s health. He spent his whole life working hard to support his family, it’s getting hard for him to do daily things, and I worry about them this winter. I just do not feel that my dad should be outside splitting and stacking wood for the fire-place, but know him well enough to know that he will do what needs to be done regardless of how painful it is. If they lived closer these are things my husband and I could do to help them ut. My parents do not live to far away, but far enough that we cannot help them with things they need on a daily or even weekly basis.
I recently read an article from NexnAvenue about “When and How to Coax Your Parent to Move Closer” my husband and I have been talking about talking to my parents about moving closer recently. The article covered several things to consider before jumping up and talking to your parent(s) about jumping up and moving. It suggests to do a cost-benefit analysis of the move to be sure that relocation is the best option. It continues to explain how important considering quality of medical care, consulting with family, and learning about your resources. It also pointed out that planning is important when it comes to caregiving options for mom and/or dad, but it’s also important to communicate because you never know if your parent(s) already have something planned.
Thankfully, Genworth Financial has some great tools and information about caregiving options. I can search local care providers and resources, as well as view the cost of care map to help guide me to the right choices.
Have you started to talk to your parents or loved ones about the future?